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  1. […] But now that they’re gone, I miss them. I miss my mom’s silly jokes. I miss her positive attitude when faced with raising a special needs son. And how, when I was struggling in college and going through a spell of despair, she explained to me that she was “high on life,”not as a way to make me feel bad, but as a symbol of hope that yes, some people are just happy and that it was possible for me, too. I don’t know if she was quite as happy as she projected to the world, but she convinced me at the time, and it made me strive to be the same way. […]

    January 28, 2015
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  2. Melissa Baker said:

    Dear Jen,
    I’m also so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. You are a wonderful writer. I’m sure both of your parents were so proud of you. Positive vibes and love are being sent your way.
    Melissa

    November 25, 2014
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  3. said:

    Oh, Sweetheart. I see you read the Anne Sexton poem I posted today. I lost my mother back in ’10 after four long years following a massive stroke. She was an active, vibrant woman who looked a little like Lucille Ball. I’m still driving her truck. My parents were divorced a long time ago, and both remarried. She was widowed when she passed; my stepmother was a godsend to Dad. The doctors had called us all in last fall, so losing him this spring wasn’t unexpected, but as you say, there are a lot of things you think about when you are truly an “orphan”, no matter how old you are. I was blessed that he lived to see me turn 50. I think your plans for your wedding are wonderful, and that he’d like that. We don’t all get great parents, and I think that makes it harder when they are, and we don’t have them anymore. But they leave us with a legacy in our bones and our memories. Hang tight to that, hon, and be gentle with yourself.

    November 25, 2014
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  4. said:

    That was really beautiful, though I expect nothing less from you. So sorry for all your losses. Big love.

    November 20, 2014
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  5. Jen – I am so sorry for your loss. I missed it on my FB hiatus. Thank you for sharing your beautiful words and perspective. <>

    November 20, 2014
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