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  1. Oh I’m crying and so sad for you. I have three cats and two kids and love them all equally! My sister lost her beloved cat a few months ago and used these precise sentiments as we bawled on the phone together. You will love again because the days you shared were a gift … and all we have is today. You can’t choose not to love; it’s already a part of who you are. 🙂 So sorry for your ache but know that time will be at least some kind of salve. Celebrate the friendship you had!

    April 13, 2016
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  2. said:

    Oh Jen, I have walked every step of this painful journey, and I am so sorry. My cat Dylan had a liver tumour, and I had to choose to put him to sleep on September 12th 2013. He had been mine for all except the first 12 weeks of his 13 1/2 years, and that moment the vet pressed the final needle was a physical punch in my stomach. Despite all the other pets I have had and lost, I have never experienced any pain like that – and I refuse to ever choose to do so again. I have a deep and abiding love for animals, and I know that many could benefit from being with me, but there is no way I will do that to myself again. I have spent the time since Dylan’s passing regretting so many times I didn’t spend with him, times I didn’t give the vets more trouble about diagnosing what was wrong with him early on, shouting at him for peeing on my favourite books… I’ve lived it, I loved him, I miss him, and I know that I will never see him again because that’s reality. I’ve been through it once, and once was enough for me.

    My heart aches again for you and Mike. I cannot offer you any words to ease your pain, nor should I. I am however sending you whatever love and support can be gained through text on a screen x

    February 27, 2016
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    • said:

      Thank you so much for what you wrote. I’m so sorry that you can relate to how this feels. I’m also sorry for not replying sooner — for a couple of days I was distracted enough to keep the tears away but I’m sure you know they always come back up. If I had a time machine I’d transport you back to when you first got Dylan and keep doing it so you’d never have to be apart, and I would do the same with my life with Sassy. It’s an awful club to belong to, but it does help to know other people can relate and I’m not going crazy. I’m sending my love and support to you as well. xo

      February 29, 2016
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  3. said:

    I was worried this was coming… I’m very sorry for your loss. She knew how loved she was and she is.

    I remember the stage of wishing you had spent every moment with them all the time. But there’s no way anyone can live like that. You do have to actually leave the house. That doesn’t take away from the love they felt.

    Sassy was beautiful.

    February 26, 2016
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    • said:

      Thank you so much, Jillianbear, and you’re right. I guess I just wish I could have more time with her. 🙁

      February 26, 2016
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  4. said:

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Jen! 🙁 Reading this was heart-breaking…but I can completely understand what you’re going through. I’ve lost pets twice in my life so far. Right now, we currently have three cats, and they’re our world. And I know that’ll make it that much harder when they do pass.
    I always take comfort in knowing that we could give them the best life possible, and they gave us something back in return that is so special and genuine.
    Sassy is definitely in doggy-heaven now, and I assure you, she’s running around again, happy and healthy once again 🙂 Pets are loyal to the end, and she’ll be there waiting for you 🙂
    Sending you warm thoughts and comfort in the meantime xx

    February 26, 2016
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