Life marches on

Last week Mike and I were at the Bottle Shop, our neighborhood craft beer store that also has a tiny bar, when I locked eyes with a dog.

I was returning to my seat from the bathroom when I spotted the dog, a pitbull/husky mix. His owner, who looked like the character Ray from the HBO series “Girls,” was standing near the bar drinking a beer.

“Is your dog friendly?” I asked.

“Very,” he said.

I crouched down and petted him and he licked my face. The Bottle Shop has dog treats on the counter, and the guy handed me a few treats to give him. He gobbled them up and looked eager for more. I made a new friend.

“My dog just passed away last month,” I said as I stood up. “It feels good to pet a dog again.”

The guy offered his condolences and I thanked him, then I joined Mike back at the bar. I told him what had just happened and the tears started rolling from my eyes.

It’s been five weeks, it’s now March, and I miss her terribly. I can’t even really think about her too much or too often or I’m a mess, going from perfectly fine to ugly-crying in less than 60 seconds.

Combined with that, I switched to a different job within my company a few weeks ago and it’s been challenging and stressful, so things have been tough overall.

But, I’m focusing on being grateful for this opportunity I’ve been given. And being grateful for having had Sassy in my life for as long as I did. And being grateful for Mike, my smart as hell, gorgeous, all-around amazing husband, who just came home with a surprise bagel for me. I’ve also been meditating, which really helps.

No matter what the circumstances, I believe there’s always something good to be found, and by focusing on that, you can make the good expand. That’s been my experience, anyway. I know things will get easier on all fronts. It just takes time.

A few minutes after my encounter with the dog at The Bottle Shop, his human knocked over a beer. I happened to be walking by as he was trying to attend to that.

He spotted me and asked, “Can you watch him for a few minutes?”

I agreed, and he handed me his leash.

“His name is Bootsie,” he said.

His leash was much sturdier than Sassy’s was, and attached to it was a poop bag holder in the shape of a white dog bone. It had been a month since I held a leash. I wrapped it around my wrist and sat on the floor with him.

I asked him to sit. He sat. I gave him a treat. He crunched it up and licked my face.

And through my tears, I smiled.

If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment. – Henry David Thoreau


  1. Manny said:

    In about a year she will come back to you! Dogs reincarnate sooner than people! She might be a different way size and Color but you will recognize her and she will come to You in an unusual way!😇👌🌷🙏🌷

    July 11, 2016
  2. said:

    This was so sweet to read, Jen! I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better. These things definitely do just take time. You will always miss Sassy, but you will also feel better in time 🙂
    Thank you for sharing this! Please continue to keep us posted. Best xx

    March 23, 2016
  3. said:

    I have been so worried about you! Losing your pet is just the worst thing 🙁

    I’m glad you were able to hug another dog and also update us. Good luck with the new job!

    March 18, 2016
  4. Margaret McGann said:

    Jen, it’s so hard. We lost my girl, Molly, last week and I miss her terribly. She was so, so special to me and also to Lilly. It was been a very tough couple of weeks. Her ashes were ready yesterday and I just couldn’t go, but I wanted her to come home…couldn’t stand the thought of her staying at the vet all by herself overnight (crazy right?), so I had to send Brian. I really can’t even believe she’s gone. She was my shadow…my best, best buddy. I have three other dogs here, but they are all such individuals. It’s doesn’t help really — even though I love them too. I am right there with you…heartbroken. 🙁

    March 16, 2016
    • said:

      Oh crap Margie, I didn’t realize you lost Molly last week. I knew she wasn’t doing well. I’m so, so sorry. I can relate to how you felt about her ashes — I didn’t want to go to pick them up, but Mike was at work and I wanted her home ASAP. I can’t believe all I have left of her is in a little box. It feels surreal, doesn’t it? Hugs to you guys, and to your other doggies. I’m sure they know she’s gone, too. 🙁

      March 16, 2016

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